The Family Heart: A Memoir of When Our Son Came Out by Robb Forman Dew
Family happiness was a subject Robb Forman Dew believed she understood in all its complexities. And then one spring day her older son, home from his first year away at college, told her that he was gay. In THE FAMILY HEART she navigates deep emotional waters in order to accommodate this knowledge, turning her attention to her own husband and two sons, all of whom were suddenly navigating uncharted territory. Over the space of the following year the four of them unwittingly began a process of evolution as a family--of love and enlightenment that left not one of them untouched.
What happens when parents find out their son or daughter is gay or lesbian? There is no literature available--no advice books, no self-help tomes--even now, that alerts expectant parents to remain flexible as their children discover their sexuality. Mrs. Dew finds herself enraged by her ignorance about a subject that sometimes is of life and death importance. She excoriates the doctors who were the revered advisers of her day: Dr. Spock, and Dr. Terry Brazleton, for failing to pass on possibly life-saving information about which they were well aware. This is an important book for all sorts of reason, but it is invaluable for expectant or current parents of any child in the world.